“I am not a role model. Just because I can dunk a basket ball does not mean I can raise your kids.” Charles Barkley
As troubles mount for Blade Runner Oscar Pistorius and Lance Armstrong’s status continues it plummet, we can use these events as a reminder to be careful in our choice of role models.
Look at the following names and think about the good, the bad, the ugly actions for these athletes and coaches. Now look at the listed transgressions. Then insert letters (may be more than for each person) by the names. Many may get more than one letter.
| Name | Letters | Name | Letters |
| Lance Armstrong | Kobe Bryant | ||
| Tony Dungee | Lenny Dykstra | ||
| Carlton Fisk | Dwight Gooden | ||
| Chamique Holdsclaw | Marian Jones | ||
| Michael Jordan | Bobby Knight | ||
| Ray Lewis | Peyton Manning | ||
| Mark McGuire | Joe Paterno | ||
| Walter Payton | Michael Phelps | ||
| Pete Rose | O J Simpson | ||
| Pat Summit | Mante Taeo | ||
| Tiger Woods | Mike Tyson | ||
| Danica Patrick | Billie Jean King | ||
| Minnie Minoso | Oscar Pistorius |
Behaviors
A – Cocaine/Pot Use H – Illegal Performance Drugs
B – DUI / Drive under Influence I – Lying
C – Illegal Financial Activity J – Murder
D – Ignoring Crimes K – Unfaithful to Partner
E – Meanness L – Sport Gambling
F – Stupidity M – Violence
G – Rape
X. So far so good, worthy of admiration What makes you believe the person stands out?
It’s easy to look towards popular culture role models, like athletes, coaches, singers, artists, celebrities, as our heroes to fill our idealistic desires. We see them; we believe because we want to and maybe we even need to believe. They compete, often win, may give to charity, and speak for social justice. Some overcome serious illness. Many, even with misdeeds, remain charismatic; they often sound great in interviews. Good sports we think, good winners and by golly our person, our hero.
Sir Charles had it right: he is not to be our role model. Even if he lived an exemplary life we cannot know, we never know these people — only their personas.
Admire abilities. Look for your role models closer to home. Look within your family and circle of friends. Jim Rohn, author and motivational speaker, says, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Be careful who you are with and let go of disappointments.
We know the goodness of our family and friends. We know that their influence on us can be enhanced through understanding their imperfections and their humanness. Still, be picky on your choices.
If you read It is Not About the Bike by Lance Armstrong, you can learn from it. It would make a good book of fiction; alas Armstrong wrote it as truth.
A good number of public figures are terrific and do good things. Just remember you don’t really know them and probably never will.
Sir Charles was also wrong: it seems fair for athletes and for each of us to strive to be role models for others — because that striving is also right. Some athletes and coaches are great people; we just can’t be sure of which ones. I bet there are some in that list you really like eh?
Well for me, Minnie Minoso, my first athletic favorite, is still (as far as I have heard) ok!
Bill
